17. Good riddance to the time of your life

No-one tells you about the reality of living in a converted, industrial building in the regenerated, hipster part of town, down near the docks. The trendy idea of the cool, urban, party loft was very different experience for me day-to-day. What was once a dusty, 18th century, grain warehouse, straight out of the film, ‘The Conversation’, was now shiny, high-spec, open-plan apartments. Exposed brickwork, wooden beams, huge red cast iron pillars, oversized light fittings. It had history. It was portrayed as an aspirational lifestyle choice for the young professional. These flats were swanky alright, but the glossy brochures didn’t quite tell the whole story.

For example, those luxury apartments were not soundproofed. At night, in bed, you could hear every fart and snore from the neighbours above. Every argument. You knew what they watched on tv in their bedroom. You knew the regularity and routine of their fast and furious sex life including the preferred settings of their toys, that she’s loud, he’s not, and he pees first afterwards. That they don’t flush their en-suite at night. But,  if we could hear them, that meant the people underneath could also hear us.

The harsh, incessant, cawing seagulls and her upstairs stomping around with her hob nailed clogs on the solid oak floor were all you needed for an alarm clock in this flat. There were no curtains at the windows; we were too high up for anyone to see in though these tiny windows, so we woke with the sunrise, or if sunrise was after 6.45, we would wake to their alarm clock.

Every Friday night, without fail, on the dot of 9.30pm, the sounds of “I’ve had the time of my life, and I never felt like this before…” drifted in, and slowly got louder and louder, as the party boat cruise brought back its latest shipment of merry, cackling hen party revellers. Another unwanted annoyance that also wafted in uninvited when the Julienne balcony doors were open, was the unmistakeable herby smell of weed from downstairs. Whenever they smoked out of the window, which was every night, and most of the weekends, it just blew back right into our flat.

The living ‘space’ was just one big L-shaped room. No effort was spared, (literally, no thought given) to thinking of how the configuration of the rooms in our apartment would work next to other rooms in adjoining flats. The main living area was basically a kitchen, dining room and lounge with no walls between them. It became clear that it was not possible for one person to watch tv whilst someone else busied themselves in the kitchen because of the noise of the extractor fan. So it was, that the dishwasher and terribly inconvenient unreliable washer/dryer combo were only switched on if we were retiring to bed or going to work.

To comply with fire regulations, there were heavy self-closing doors in every room. To save energy, all of the communal lights in the stairwells and corridors were motion sensitive and came on automatically. That meant a stalker/burglar could watch you enter the building and see which lights came on so they knew which floor you lived on. A friend showed me how to open our front door by putting his hand through the letterbox and turning the handle from the inside!

It wasn’t one of those horrendous segregated ‘communities’ with a separate ‘poor door’ for social housing residents. No, we all used the same keypad-controlled entrance. However, pressing any four numbers opened the door. I suppose not knowing this glaring flaw gave those residents who were ignorant of this fact, some comfort of the illusion of security. I never ever felt quite safe there.

Every Saturday night we soon learned to put our phones on silent and keep the tv on low. Some of our (dickhead) friends thought we were a convenient free bed and breakfast for when they missed the last bus home. The fun of the pop-in soon wore off, especially when I was the one cleaning up vomit that had almost managed to go in the toilet bowl, but not quite. Finding a condom wrapper and some underwear in the spare bed was the final straw. Our cut-off for phone calls went down from 10pm to about 8pm, and our keenness for hospitality wore thin. Once I even pretended that we were babysitting, and I had just “got her down” so I couldn’t let my unexpected visitors in because it would be too noisy.

We didn’t stay there long. I don’t think many people did. 18th century listed buildings don’t usually come with parking, and with it being in a tourist destination, the long walk from the multi-story was very inconvenient with bags of food shopping. So that was another enforced lifestyle change. Little and often for food shopping.  If residents were moving house that day, they would hog the lift for hours on end, which began to get annoying very quickly. The vibe I was sold and happily bought into wore off quickly. As is the case with so many things in life, the fantasy was better than the truth.

Meters weren’t read, because the electricity people couldn’t get into the building. Parcels frequently went missing. Pizzas never got delivered. New people quickly moved in, and apparently unconcerned about other residents, had loud parties which seemed to include: shouting in the corridors, throwing bags of rubbish down the stairs, setting off the fire alarms, smoking in the stairwells, leaving it reeking of piss, vomit, beer and garbage. It was worse than Freshers Week at a university halls of residence. Eviction notices served, they were gone. It would be quiet for a few weeks then, the cycle of parties would begin again. I suppose with rents being so high, landlords had to risk it, and take who they could get at short notice to cover the mortgage payments.

Maybe if we had been younger or had had friends in the building, it might have been different. I didn’t love loft living. It wasn’t for us, but it would still have been nice to have known some of this before we moved in though. This was a lesson learned. In time.